A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.
Keith Miller

A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.
Keith Miller

Beneath all of these addictions is this disease, this control disease which is the mark of our society.
Keith Miller

Feelings are like a color chart that God has given us.
Keith Miller

I am six feet tall. I am not supposed to be afraid.
Keith Miller

I am too old to think.
Keith Miller

I grew up and I became very successful at what I did as a young man. I became a work addict because this was the only way I could get any relief from this pain.
Keith Miller

I have learned to like myself for the first time and to have some serenity.
Keith Miller

I learned that the purpose of the Twelve Steps is to do the will of God.
Keith Miller

I remember when I was a little boy my father didn't love me; he couldn't. He loved my older brother but he couldn't love me somehow, at least not in a way I could understand it.
Keith Miller


I was taught that pain is bad.
Keith Miller

I wrote a book called The Taste of New Wine because I couldn't find a book that talked about the reality of the situation and how we were dishonest and afraid.
Keith Miller

If God is in a life, it doesn't have to be big to be happy and to be important in His kingdom.
Keith Miller

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.
Keith Miller

My only hope to receive love is to let you see who I am, then I may believe you.
Keith Miller

No gentleman ever discusses any relationship with a lady.
Keith Miller

Pain is the doorway to wisdom and to truth.
Keith Miller

Religious work is one of the best ways to keep from facing your reality if you are Christian, if you are using it to calm the pain, because that it what all addictions are, attempts to cover the pain of this spiritual disease.
Keith Miller

The primary symptom of a controller is denial, that is I can't see its symptoms in myself.
Keith Miller

The whole Bible is the story of men and women trying to get back to God, to overcome that sin with sacrifices, good works, sermons, prophesy, witnessing, giving all kinds of things. It never worked.
Keith Miller